Wherein I Solicit Sympathy

Wherein I Solicit Sympathy

Yes, this is the post wherein I solicit sympathy. Actually, I’m hoping to say this just once and let this be the last time I talk about it, but I know that it will effect future posts, so y’all need to know.

Yesterday I was diagnosed with cancer. Rectal cancer, or as my child so eloquently says, butt cancer. Notice I didn’t say solicit advice, but solicit sympathy. Two entirely different things. I want you all to feel very sorry for me. And maybe send me chocolate. And money. Y’know, if you’re feeling generous. But mostly, I want this news to drive you to the store to purchase Jones Natural Chews for your dogs.

Chewy is always soliciting sympathy

Did I just say that out loud? Now you’re questioning the veracity of my diagnosis, aren’t you? Well, it’s true. There’s a three centimeter mass in a place no one would want it. I undergo a CT scan this morning to see if it’s spread to the lymph nodes. I won’t know until next Wednesday if it’s spread, or what stage I’m at. The doctor is amazing, as is his team. They’ve scheduled all kinds of things right up front, including the installation of a port next Thursday, in case we need it. He thinks we’ll need the chemo port.

I’m learning a whole new language, y’all. This is crazy! I can’t have cancer. Westminster is in two weeks! But I don’t know if I’ll go. Westminster is on the fence for me.

When our first dog, Clee-o, had cancer, we didn’t talk about what was involved. She was nearly 13 years old, it was in her shoulder, fast growing (literally overnight), and the best thing we could do for her was to send her over the rainbow bridge. So there was no conversation. Meaning I’m still clueless. Well, a little less so after yesterday.

Colored Pencil Australian Shepherd - Clee-o passed of cancer

So tell me your cancer stories. I don’t care if they’re encouraging, or if you lost someone. I know the power of story. It’s not just for the listener. Tell me your stories. Please. I need to hear them. But don’t give me advice about what to eat or programs to try. If you’d like to give practical advice – like a type of glove to try when my hands start to freeze – I’d love that.

I know this is going to be difficult because I’m scatter brained. For instance, this morning, in two hours, I have a CT scan. I’m not supposed to eat or drink anything before it. I made a huge pot of coffee, fixed a giant cup just the way I like it, grabbed an apple, then sat to post here. It’s staring at me. Smelling amazing. Taunting me. It was only when I was about to take that first sip of delicious nectar of the gods that I remembered I couldn’t drink it. Stupid cancer! Keeping me from my morning coffee. Grr.

The most difficult part, so far, was being told that I won’t be able to snuggle with Beyonce’ and Velveeta while I’m undergoing treatment. They hunt at night and bring in germs. The puppies won’t be able to jump on my chest and nuzzle under my chin because of the chemo port. I won’t be able to feed the chickens or collect eggs. I sure won’t be able to scoop the litter box (which I’m all heart broken over). The good news? That only lasts a couple of months.

I'm soliciting sympathy

So, hopefully this is the last time I come to y’all with big, horrific news about me. Sure, I’ll whine some as I go along. but mostly I’ll be talking about Jones Natural Chews. And wishing they cured cancer. They sure do make dogs happy. Which makes me happy.

Spreading the good chews …


26 thoughts on “Wherein I Solicit Sympathy

  1. Gads, how hard it must of been for you to open this terrible news to the public but I’m glad you did. The public can be so supportive and will help you through this. You sound like you have taken the bull by the horns and have the best attitude that a person can have by knowing YOU WILL kick this! Good luck to you in the days ahead, hugs, love, peace and prayers all coming your way.

  2. I don’t want to share a cancer story, but I do want to say this. They have made AMAZING strides in treating cancer today, and it sounds like you have a good, proactive Dr.

    I will send you chocolate (no money, sorry my friend) and I will be here cheering for you every step of the way.

    Thanks for joining the blog hop, next week though, it better be good news. πŸ˜‰

  3. My mom had primary liver cancer. This is highly unusual for someone who does not drink. From day one my mom believed she would beat the odds. Unfortunately, her cancer was very advanced. She lived a little more than 2 months after diagnosis. I was with her in the hospital when she passed. I was the last one to carry on a normal conversation with her. I truly believe she had no idea she was close to death. I told her my sister was coming and she asked “why”. In a drug induced conversation she told me that coffee helped prevent cancer. 2 days later on TV my brother-in-law saw a news report about coffee helping to prevent cancer. I was a coffee drinker before she said it but even more afterwards πŸ™‚ Cancer SUCKS. It is not a respector of person and it seems to take people with an eeny meeny miny mo selection. For some reason it seems like only nice people get it. My mom was the sweetest, kindest person in the world. My sister and I have asked many times, why her? and not our dad or step-dad.(hope they don’t ever read this, please dont’ sell me out πŸ˜‰ ) I wouldn’t begin to offer anykind of advice on nutrition, exercise or medical treatment. My suggestion is to take help offered and realize that you are not alone in fighting this battle. You have many people who care for you and want to help. Praying for you and your whole family!!

  4. No sending of advice. Just sending giant hugs.

    However, I’m not going to tell you stories – I saw these great cards once called empathy cards that really hit home for me. This one in particular: http://emilymcdowell.com/products/died-of-lemons-empathy-card

    I hope it (and some of her other ones) give you a chuckle during this stressful time. I’m also available to punch people who offer you annoying cliches. Just let me know. πŸ™‚
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  5. i am so sorry to hear abt your cancer. i am praying that all goes well. i just had surgery and know how it is when you have your 4 legged kids and really cant do much with them. i hope that everything goes well for you and that you have a speedy recovery. i had a friend who had breast cancer, her mother and sister died of it, but she had her breast removed and has full recovery. my mother had lymphoma and had a full recovery. just make sure you do the whole life thing, take care of your self, eat right, no drinking, etc. get some exercise. please take care of yourself.

  6. We are here for you, we will gladly listen to whatever you what to talk about, we will send positive thoughts and prayers for you, and yes we will buy Jones Natural Chews!!! Keep up posted and glad you shared your news with us. Sorry you won’t be able to go to the Westminster but you can sit on the couch and watch it and have the very BEST view of the show. I will be watching from my couch. We are all here to support you and send you lots of hugs! Trust your doctors! Always think positive! I hope you took your apple and your coffee with you….or that you will stop by Starbucks for the biggest cup of coffee!

  7. Oodles of sympathy and absolutely no advice.

    Purrs for a wildly successful surgery and a clean and spiffy bum when all is said and done.


  8. Flea, we are still trying to grasp the news after seeing your fb post this morning. How could this happen to such a wonderful caring person and one we know and love? We don’t have any human cancer stories, just Mom’s last dog who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and passed away a week later, but that is a real mean kind of cancer. We just pray for you that it has not spread and if you need treatment, it goes well and isn’t too difficult for you. Think positive, be as positive as you can be in your situation as positivity is good for the soul. Mom, Bailie and I are sending you lots of love positive thoughts, and GBGV hugs. You are so brave to tell people about this. Maybe it will motivate others to get tested and not be afraid to talk about it. We are sure it is not easy…heavens, I get upset when Mom tells the vet I need my anal glands expressed, I can’t imagine something worse than that. I like to keep my private parts private, so I get it. Bailie is much more open about those kinds of things. Keep your humor…we all like to try and laugh when things get stressful.

  9. I am so sad to learn this. I have tears running down my face. I will keep you in my prayers. I want to say I am glad you are fighting. My mom had cancer (not the butt kind though) and didn’t put up a fight at all even though it was curable. If Blueberry were there, first she would knock you down for the Jones treats and then offer you comforting snuggles. Sending you hugs and love and sympathy.

  10. I don’t have any stories to share right now, just sending you hugs and love and all that jazz. I can however recommend gloves to keep your hand warms πŸ™‚ NorthFace gloves. They are amazing πŸ™‚ I have Raynauds disease and it effects my fingers the most, these gloves are my best friend.

  11. Dear Mrs Flea, my dearest and bestest BFF Maggie Mae sent me over to speak to you. I is sending you lots of warm hugs and (non-germ) licky kisses. Just to let you nose, you will be thinking of you and sending lots of positive thoughts your way
    Loves and licky kisses
    Princess Leah xxx

  12. Flea!! I am so sorry to hear this news! I am not going to tell you cancer stories because there is just too much of it in my family. I hate cancer! I wish there was a cure already too! Enough is enough! I am just going to say that I know you will be just fine and you will beat this and I know that I will see you in two weeks at Westminster! Carol and I are going on the Monday. She is working at it so I’m tagging along with her and we are going to all meet up and have some fun! It will be a nice getaway for you! Coco and I are sending you lots of hugs and kisses! We miss you! Be well! xoxo

  13. OMG I wrote a whole paragraph to you and it’s not here! I don’t know what happened! It didn’t post!
    Dear Flea, I am so sorry to hear this news. Cancer sucks. I am not going to post any cancer stories though. There is just too much of in my family and I hate it. I wish they would find a cure already too. Enough is enough. It’s gone on too long! I am just going to say that you will beat this and I know I will see you at Westminster! Carol and I are going on Monday. She has to work it and I’m tagging along with her! We expect to see you and will have a great time together! You need the getaway now! We miss you! Coco and I send lots of hugs and kisses! xoxo

  14. Flea – I have been thinking of what I would say ever since I first saw your post on FB. I know you said stories are welcome, good and bad but between family (including both of my parents), co-workers, relatives and friends there are too many. I will say that I have had two skin cancers removed – one was melanoma which is the deadliest and the other was basal cell carcinoma which is the least problematic. They were removed and that was the end of any form of treatment – the melanoma was almost 20 years ago and the basal cell was about 3 years ago. No more signs of either – which is what I hope and pray yours will show after whatever is done.

    In the meantime we are all here for you and you are more than welcome to rant and rave and carry on in anyway you feel comfortable – we all in Blogville are here to listen. The Beaglebratz send their love and cuddles and Arooooooooooos for all is well.
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  15. I am so sorry to hear this news. I actually did not learn form your FB but from Meg, who saw a post of Jen’s. I don’t know if I told you my story when we talked on the phone back in July or even know that i had one.
    I went to the dermatologist for the first time while i was home because it was free and I had that dark spot on my lip (don’t know if you noticed, but I always did) and another on my arm that my doctor was concerned about. I’ve been a “sun worshipper” most of my life. Before I was a believer and after cause it really is a worshipful experience for me.
    I found out that one was melanoma which is the deadliest and the other was basal cell carcinoma which is the least dangerous. The one on my lip was melanoma. i think I was in denial most of the time. I went for the surgeries and was surprised by how large the cut was on my arm for such a tiny spot. It took months to heal and my lip still feels a little weird. But I am praising God that’s all it was! Several spots that were frozen/burnt off and two surgeries and I’m done. Since then I am much more careful about the sun and I DO wear sunscreen and do not allow myself to get burned. Going to the dermatologist will be a regular thing for me but I’m grateful it was caught by my doctor.
    I’m praying your case is as simple and it is a quick process with little pain. I’m also praying the port is a waste of time and expense and that it is not needed. I love you and will be praying for you and for the fam as you all go through this. Btw, it is great to have family for this. I remember feeling very alone in Orlando when I learned it was cancer and all the what-ifs flooded my mind. I was grateful to have a couple friends walk through the time with me and care for me in recovery.

  16. I am sorry to hear this news. I have lost many family members to cancer including my dad who had lung cancer. I won’t go in to all their stories but I will just say this, live each day as if it is your last, tell your loved ones how much you love them and last but not least never go to bed mad! I will add you to my prayers.

  17. My advice is to have a chocolate party in your hospital room when you undergo chemo. That’s what we did when my mom had cancer. The uplifting atmosphere made all the difference.

  18. Do you really want to hear sad stories too? Well, this one is both happy and sad. A few years ago, my mother ended up in the hospital due to a heart problem. When they scanned her heart, they found lung cancer. Thank goodness for the heart problem because we found out about the lung cancer just in time. Her treatment went really well. She made it through chemo and was doing really well for a couple of years. Unfortunately, lung cancer is notorious for metastasizing and getting into the brain. Despite the clean bill of health given in a follow-up appointment, it ended up in her brain. She didn’t want to go through chemo again. And it was growing too fast for chemo to be likely to work. The doctor gave her a few weeks. My mother is strong, though. She lived well for another few months. Sad, I know. But there is one good point to take from this. My mother’s positive attitude helped her fight it the first time and helped her live longer the second time. Attitude is everything so enjoy every precious moment. You can beat this!

  19. Holy crap! Man, this news just sucks. With fingers crossed that all goes well, please know we’re sending pawsitive healing thoughts your way and appreciate your sharing your story. ღ

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